“Sex” might well be the most-searched word on the Internet today, but it is still a topic shrouded in myth. A vast majority of us tend to rely on hearsay, friends, media, and social expectations to understand and make sense of our own sexual experiences.

The questions individuals grapple with can vary vastly. From the young person wondering whether it is the right time to get sexually active, the couple struggling in a sexless marriage, the young couple who want to get intimate but don’t wish to risk pregnancy…

Most of the time, they may talk in their closed circles or look up the Internet only to be bombarded by information which may be confusing and conflicting. It is not surprising then that numerous people suffer bad relationships, experience guilt, confusion and frustration.

 

 Here are a few scenarios which may sound familiar to you...  

• Saurabh and Kavita started dating recently and the relationship progressed to a physical one. Kavita is not sure if she’s ready for such an intense relationship and wants to slow things down without hurting Saurabh’s feelings.
• Mira was married for about a year and didn’t know how to react when her husband told her that he wanted to try out role-play and domination. She had read the popular book but still felt confused and wondered if she was not able to satisfy her husband ‘normally’.
• Tarun started watching porn and masturbating when he was in college. He ‘knew’ it was ‘wrong’. He wanted to get rid of this habit. He tried abstaining but failed to stick to his resolution every time.
• Rhea realised she was attracted to her best friend – a girl! She wasn’t sure if she was gay or whether it was just a passing phase. She wasn’t ‘manly’ in her demeanour and this confused her further.

None of them would have had to go through so much confusion, guilt and anxiety if they had trustworthy, non-judgmental people to discuss these concerns with.

It’s not easy to talk about a topic which is still considered a taboo in our culture… this is why it becomes important to have qualified, well-informed professionals who can support and guide those who struggle with these emotions and confusion.

If you find yourself grappling with questions about sex, do not hesitate to contact one of our counsellors.